Kristi Lovett

[Kristi_Lovett]

Wish I could click Like on this or something. Not only are these guys being jackasses by saying so but at least in my situation all the generalizations they made are so completely far off the mark it's ridiculous.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rycZusilCNc

So yeah, there's this. Looks like Kristi just got out of an abusive relationship.

I need to on a soapbox for a bit here and if the mods think this shouldn't stay on here then they can go ahead and take it down but I have to at least say it.

When I read and heard what Kristi said, I was hoping that all I would read was empathy and condolences to the 6 years of hell this woman experienced and to wish her all the best in the world.

What I read is crap like this:

Why do woman choose guys like this? Same old true story that nice guys tend to come last. Be an asshole you get the girl.

I can't understand why women stay with guys that abuse the shit out of them.

Why do women love assholes like this?

please stop going for the guys with biggest muscles. I almost guarantee you did that

So in a moment where a woman is telling a lot of personal trauma she went through, these clowns decide the best route to go is to A) blame the victim, B) generalize an entire sex, or C) both.

It's funny when supposed "nice guys" decided to be sexists douchebags because a woman was taken advantage of. It's like they're waging their fingers going "none of this would have happened if you just went with a nice guy like me." Newsflash: you're not a nice guy if you believe this. Nice guys complaining about finishing last are completely missing the point of being a nice person. You're not nice expecting for an unspecified reward down the road from a person of the opposite sex. You're nice because it's a good thing to do. And simply being a "nice guy" isn't the end-all, be-all to a relationship. You're right in that looks do matter. Lo and behold someone will find you more attractive if you put some effort into personal appearance. Running around with a neckbeard and a shirt with a dumb meme on it that only your internet friends will get is not going to attract you a date, and rightfully so.

Self-confidence, intelligence, proper hygiene and body image, and yes being a nice guy are what women are looking for. Quit the "women only want assholes" crap.